Over the course of the last four and a half years of marriage, I've taken my wife out to dinner many, many times. At times I've surprised her with lavish expensive outings, and other times I've taken her to a local cafe just to spend some time together. We've seen movies, and gone on picnics, and a whole bunch of other things.
I just have one problem with all of this. I've organized all of it. See, my wife believes firmly that it's the man's role to organize "dates". Recently (over the last 12 months) I've actually asked her 3 or 4 times if she could organize for us to go out somewhere special - so that I can experience what it's like to be on the receiving end. When we were engaged, she actually did this one evening, and it was so much fun, and such a special memory for me that I'd really love to do it again.
However, every time I ask she gets upset about it. Not cry upset, just generally negative toward the idea. Like I said, she firmly believes that this is my job, and me asking her seems to cause her some offence.
Anyways, the purpose of all of this is to find out if any married males (it may also apply to other long-term relationships I guess) who read my blog have encountered similar observations. Does your wife not want to do the organizing when it comes to the two of you going out together? Have you ever suggested she could organize something for you? How did she respond? Do you think that it is the man's job, and that I should just get over it? My wife actually suggested I check what other guys thought on this, so that's why this blog post exists. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't blog about my marriage, but this really is the best forum to get some responses to this question.
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